Happy New Year - Resolutions

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It's a new year! I think most of us get reflective around the new year - contemplating our last year, the good, the bad, the happy and sad. We also tend to get excited at the possibility of a fresh start, a new beginning, and a renewed motivation. I'm no different and I do love setting New Year's resolutions. I've actually stuck to several in the past few years (and didn't stick to many more).

In relation to my dealing with B's addiction a LOT has changed in the past year. In the spring is when I decided enough is enough and set my first boundaries. I finally decided to just go after my own emotional health and well-being whether or not he was going to be sober or seek recovery. I read books, I joined a forum, I started a blog, I set more boundaries, I STUCK to boundaries, I talked and talked and talked, I told a friend for the first time, I reach out and met another WoPA in person (which was SO great and a source of so much strength - thank you Ashley from Memoirs of a Goddess in Training). I learned so much about the world of pornography addiction and the effects on the addict and spouse and family. I started working through the 12-steps of the Healing Through Christ manual. I feel that lots was done but I am still at the beginning of my journey. There is more healing yet to be found. On that note I've set a couple spiriutality/recovery-related resolutions:

1. Read my scriptures every day. It has to be at least one verse. I've never stuck to a daily routine for longer than a month or so but it makes SUCH a big difference so I am determined!
2. Work on step-work at least one every two weeks. I thought about setting the goal of finishing the steps this year but I think it shouldn't be quite so rigid. I just want to make a concerted effort to be consistent.

There is more I want to do but I believe is setting myself up for success so I'll stop there. I hope that all my WoPA sister's can find a moment of joy in their reflections of the past year and a sliver of hope as they look forward to a new year that is waiting to be filled with moments of strength, faith, and triumph.